Free Essays on Love

you say, The games you play, the options that i tried, to attempt for our friendship to stay alive, As i know that i have failed in all of the above, I must admit i just fell in love.... Free Essays on Love Free Essays on Love Love There are many people that have trouble defining love or being able to understand what exactly it is. For years love has remained a difficult subject for human beings to understand. One thing is clear though, that without love humans would not exist and that it is a basic drive in all human beings. Love may be defined in many different ways but the psychologist Eric Fromm defined love as â€Å"Always the act of giving†. Eric Fromm had many findings about love, aside from his definition he also found that love was the 4th basic drive in all humans, love is a major motivator, he also concluded that men fall in love an average of 9 times in during their lifetime and that women fall in love an average of 6 times and he found that love is the base of all human emotions. This definition of love has been exemplified in my life by seeing people who truly love each other and care for each other deeply. Love is a hard thing to find but it is not impossible to find or attain. When I see a person who makes sacrifices for people and who gives constantly to the people whom they care for is what I call love and how I hold up my standard to love. When love is absent from our lives humans cease to function correctly. It is one of our basic drives and humans need love in order to survive as much as they need food or water. Love is one of the things that seperates us from animals and allows us to make bonds and relationsihps with people whom we care for deeply.... Free Essays on Love What is love? Does it even exist? How do you know if you’re in love? What happens if you don’t feel loved? What can come from love? These are questions people ask themselves everyday. People mistake love all the time. Some people say that love is that tingly feeling in your body, others say that feeling is indigestion. People in today’s world need love. Without it, people feel cold and alone. Weather receiving love from a parent, friend, or someone special, people need it. First, when you are in love, you are completely unselfish to the one you love. An eight year old stated â€Å"love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs†. In a twisted way, I believe this boy has helped defined love. Just the idea of giving without expecting something in return is a true act of unselfishness. A deeper example would be if your spouse only had one working kidney, and she needed a kidney transplant. Problem, the only matching kidney in the world is yours. Would you be willing to sacrifice the way you live for your spouse’s life. A person in love wouldn’t think of the potential problems they would have, and give their organ. Next, love for a family member. How many teenagers say they hate their parents? How many siblings say they hate brothers or sisters? We all know that these people do not actually hate them, but care for them. An example, my 18-year-old cousin came to visit from California, and her parents gave her a twelve o’clock curfew. I (at 17) had a curfew of two o’clock. My cousin told her parents that she hated them, and stormed out of the house. In reality, her parents were just trying to keep her out of trouble, in a town she does not know. At the end of the night she came home at twelve thirty. She had came home because there was a fight at the party she was attending. Moments after she left the police came and broke it up. The next morning my cou... Free Essays on Love I take a deep breath, say four words and let my true tears fall, when you answer me maybe this wont work at all, friends we can still remain, but since then no longer have i heard you speak my name, felt your hand touch my palm, heard your thoughts, your deepest secrets that you hide, I close my eyes as a tear rolls down my cheek, and I imagine the words you speak, the words you say, the games you played, the options I've tried, to attempt to keep our friendship alive, as I've failed in all of the above, I admit by chance maybe i just fell in love, my heartbrakes and it aches, I've never felt so depressed, and yet all the time I wish for only the best, I wish for love, I wish for everything to go my way, I wish that all this hurt and all this pain would all just fade away, I feel alone, So unloved, And yet i wonder is this how its meant to be? I wish i meant to you what you so fondly mean to me, I close my eyes as a tear rolls down my cheek, And i imagine the voice you speak, The words you say, The games you play, the options that i tried, to attempt for our friendship to stay alive, As i know that i have failed in all of the above, I must admit i just fell in love.... Free Essays on Love â€Å"There is scarcely anything more difficult than to love one another. That it is work, day labor, day labor, God knows there is no other word for it (Rilke). A encountered by Rainer Mana Rilke in the essay â€Å"On Love†. Love can’t be taken for granted; it is a strong responsibility that has to be worked at, even if it runs theory where conflicts can occur during the process of a loving relationship was smoothly. We all crave for that special bond that links us together for the rest of our lives. When we first experience love, we think about â€Å"passionate-sweep-me-off-of-my-feet† love. In reality, love isn’t always picture perfect because we encounter our human flaws with one another. We don’t imagine the downfall on love because we don’t want to feel the negative aspect on love. However, it’s the truth that we must face. From experience, I can relate to the responsibilities on love. Falling in love with my boyfriend was the excitement I had always imagined which included the â€Å"fireworks† that occurred when we were always together. Even though we are still together we have to face the harsh reality that we aren’t perfect. At first it was, but now we have to work at our relationship so we can constantly reassure ourselves that we want to be committed. In order for a relationship to withstand the daily battles, a person needs to be patient, understanding, supportive and loving. However, its how two people work together as team which can prove how long time will tell that it is meant to be. Love is very complicated and powerful. Love can’t be predictable because it changes with time between two lovers. It’s how we grow together and how we bond which causes the everlasting connection that we desire. We need to understand ourselves first, in order to make that commitment.... Free Essays on Love "Love is not a feeling...Love is respect and admiration." (poochie) Is this qoute true? Some believe so, others believe differently. What do I consider love to be? To me love is not an emotion, feeling, or charactistic. It is simiply a word misused all too often in our world. There is no such thing as love at first sight. Love is not an attraction based on looks alone. "Only I know what the meaning of love is and only you know what the meaning of love is..."(L.X. Yakubov) Love is a risk, a sacrifice, and a determination! There is no real meaning of love. It is undefinable but the dictionary has many definitions on what love really is. Most of those are based on attraction alone. The only decent one is "an unselfish concern for the good of another". Everyday some one claims that they have fallen in love, more than likely they have fallen in lust! The words "I Love You" spoken softly and sweet make people believe many untrue emotions. "I Love You" is like a drug such as Date Rape, Marijuana, and alcohol. They make you do stupid things without a realization. You feel like the world has stopped turning and you are "floating on cloud nine". How can we make the world stop or number the clouds? That would be like trying to number the stars. You hear people speak of their love for a toy, candy bar, or a pair of shoes. When you speak the words "I Love You" to a person do you mean them in the same way you love your favorite toy, candy bar, or pair of shoes. Nine times out of ten you do. We treat the admiration for a loved one like the way we admire a new pair of jeans that fit just right. We will wear them for a while until they start to fall apart or we find a newer, better pair of jeans the next week. It is hopeless to try and find love. You can't just go out looking for it. It never happens the way you expect it to or when you expect it to. Finding love in this world is like searching for "a needle in a haystack". When it happens yo... Free Essays on Love Throughout time mother/daughter relationships have had problems. On the mother/daughter relationship in the story â€Å"Girl† by Jamaica Kincaid, is Dictatorial, Commanding, and Frustrating. Due to mothers indiscretions early on in there lives the daughters are forced to pay for them. The story the â€Å"Girl† is a very good example of how the mother tries to fix her mistakes through her daughter’s life. Mothers will preach to them what not to do but in reality they really are pushing them towards doing, it. The mother in the story is very dictating towards her daughter. She tells her daughter how to â€Å"Wash the white clothes on Monday and put them on the stone heap; wash the color clothes on Tuesday and put them on the clothes-line to dry; don’t walk barehead in the hot sun.†(Kincaid p405) The mother is always telling her daughter what to do because she’s trying to prevent her daughter from making the same mistakes she made when she was her age. In the story you only hear one reference to her father. To me that’s a sign saying maybe the mother didn’t do what she’s telling her daughter to do and that could be the reason the father not there. The mother is probably the woman the baker wouldn’t let touch the bread. â€Å"always squeeze bread to make sure, it’s fresh; but what if the baker won’t let me feel the bread? you mean to say that after all you are really going to be the kind of woman who the baker won’t let near the bread?.†(Kincaid p406) The mother is just trying to prevent her daughter from becoming the town outcast. There relationship is also very commanding. â€Å"always eat your food in such a way that, it won’t turn someone else’s stomach; on Sundays try to walk like a lady and not like the slut you are so bent on becoming; don’t sing benna in Sunday school;†(Kincaid p406) The mother is so commanding because, it doesn’t seem like the daughter really listens. If she were listening the mother woul... Free Essays on Love â€Å"Love† Love. This is a rather difficult topic to write about. There is no true definition thus making â€Å"Love† not a word but a definition or explanation of its own. It is an odd application wherein you may look for its definition in either one of two situations. There is love which you feel for family, and then there is the more complicated version which you would use to describe the feelings towards your mate or lifetime partner. Family oriented love is less complicated to define. This is because the love you feel for your family is inbred from the day you are born. It is unconditional, meaning no matter how horrible your relationship with your family is the love will always be there. Love, in this case is like the glue that will always keep you together no matter how hard the times get, glue being a metaphor for blood in this case. Then there is the â€Å"Love† that everybody dwells upon. Considering no one definition describes the different â€Å"life partner† relationships of all humanity, there will never be a universal definition. Everybody who has been in a true relationship can tell you their version of what they conceive to be â€Å"Love†. I, myself being in love once in my life, too have a unique conception of love. It is an addiction. It is an addiction because it can be taken away from you. As a person literally develops a relationship leading to a certain level of achievement, which they call love, they are prone to human error just as anything else man-made, and certainly a relationship is man made, can fail, as any habit can be ended. My personal experience has led me to this conclusion. I had developed a relationship with this girl for a year and a half, and had truly accepted my feelings towards her to be â€Å"Love†. Nevertheless, many factors relevant to human natur e had failed our bond. Our break up had brought a great deal of pain to me and thought it would never leave. Nevertheless, through avoidance, my p... Free Essays on Love Love â€Å"Sonnet 116† written by William Shakesphere deals with the idea of love. It questions true love and how we often mistreat those we love. Furthermore, the many things we do for those we love are shown. This poem shows how many times we misinterpret love. It shows that love does not alter or change, no matter what someone does, or no matter how it is tested. People that really love do not quit loving no matter what is done, because true love can see through the bad stuff. All these things are shown through the words of the speaker. In â€Å"Sonnet 116,† the speaker speaks of the concept of love. The speaker talks about how love is not altered or does not change, no matter what is done. The speaker speaks of the true nature of love. He says that, â€Å"love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, or bends with the remover to remove.† The poem goes on to show that true love is an â€Å"ever fixed mark that looks on tempest and is never shaken.† These statements show how someone changes someone else, whom he or she truly loves. These also show how true love is too hard to be broken. The poem also talks about the long lasting life of love. The poem says, â€Å"Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks but bears it out even to the edge of doom.† This shows how love will last forever, and nothing can stop true love. Love does not stop after a short time, but lasts until the very final hour. This poem shows the unyielding power of love to overcome all obstacles. The speaks shows that a few trials are not enough to break love, because true love lasts forever, and does not alter under any circumstances. No matter what happens, true love will see it through to the bitter end.... Free Essays on Love The poem Sonnet 43, which is also known as â€Å"How do I love thee? Let me count thy ways.† was written by Elizabeth Barrett Browning. This poem including some others was meant for her husband, Robert Browning to profess her love for him and because he was depressed because of the loss of his mother as stated in the online commentary from BBC. BBC also enlightens readers that â€Å"They (the poems) were published under the title Sonnets from the Portuguese†¦But it was also a private joke between Elizabeth and Robert.† The private joke was a poem that Browning had previously written that involved a woman deeply in love with a Portuguese poet, which again also confirms my theme of love with the help of BBC. If one reads this poem, he or she can identify the theme of love just from the words that are spoken, especially since the word love is spoken ten times. The way she expresses herself through this poem is amazing with the similes. The sincerity of this poem also proves the theme of love particularly when she writes the last line of the poem, â€Å"I shall but love thee better after death.† (Browning 1119). She gave up a relationship with her father to be with Robert because after her mother died, her father forbid any of his children to marry. Readers can also tell she loved her father because of the statement that was said in line eleven, which was, â€Å"I love thee with a love I seemed to lose† (1119). There is no doubt that love is the theme of this sonnet. Elizabeth Barrett Browning had a hard life; her mother died when she was young, a blood vessel popped in her lung, she witnessed the death of her favorite brother, and she also became an invalid as stated in Shaw’s essay and BBC explanation. (Shaw page 3) Even though there were a lot of bad things in her life, it made her strive to do more. When she became an invalid, she did not lay there and allow her life to fade away; this is where she gained most of her know... Free Essays on Love Friendship, defined from Webster’s Dictionary as, the state of being friends, or a friendly feeling. Friends, on the other hand, are defined as people whom one knows well and is fond of. The second definition states a friend as an ally, supporter, or sympathizer. My personal definition of what friendship is, is a feeling or emotion expressed in such a way that another feels wanted and important, a relationship between a person or persons where everyone has some companion to talk to when their in need of one. I would define friends as people whom you can have several types of relations with and feel several emotions for that person. Someone that one might go to in time of need. However, friendships differ between people. For example, the friendship that someone may have between them and their parents would be different than the friendship they might have with someone their age. There are many different friendships that people have. Friendships can exist between best friends, friends, lovers, children, parents, siblings, and many more. All of these differ in some way. Everyone has a best friend. Whether it be with a person or an animal. Sometimes people who are lonely find that they have a companionship with their dog or cat. But, mostly when teenagers are the ones being discussed then they usually have more than one person they can go and talk to. To me a best friend is thought of as a person you tell everything to. They know your deepest darkest secrets, and you know theirs as well. Depending on how long you all have been friends, if it has been a long time then you also probably know everything about them, and the way they think, etc. If you are just friends with someone they may not know exactly everything about you and that person may not be the first person you might run to in order to just talk to someone, but you could go to them if you had to. The relationship could grow into a best frien... Free Essays on Love The Webster Dictionary defines love as â€Å"profoundly tender, a passionate affection for another person†. In my opinion, to love someone is to care not only about them as a person but also about their well being. You can love a person even if that individual does not feel the same way about you, or if the person just doesn’t understand why you are feeling this way toward him or her. It’s like when you’re a little kid and your parents tell you all the stuff not to touch, not to do, and they keep on reminding you over and over again. They’re reminding you constantly, not to get on your nerves, but because they don’t want you to get hurt. They love you, and because of this strong feeling of love, they want to make sure you are safe. To love someone is to have such strong feelings, so deeply felt that your life would not be complete or the same without them. You would do anything in the world to be with them and you will do absolutely everything for them because it feels good and right. This reminds me of a song by Canadian artist Brian Adams Everything I do I do it for you. He sings of a strong love in this song. A love that everything he does makes him feels so good and it feels so good because he is doing everything for her, the one he loves. The same feeling is described in the poem The Faultless Painter. In this poem there is a man named Andrea who will do anything for this girl whom he loves very much, but this feeling is not mutual. He makes promises, paints pictures and gives her the money to give to her lover because of gambling debts. This is what he means when he says: â€Å"I’ll work then for your friends friend, never fear† â€Å"More gambling debts to pay† â€Å"While hand and eye and something of a heart are left me, work’s my ware, and what’s it worth? I’ll pay my fancy† His fancy is his love for her for a little while. Sometimes love means that for every waking moment you want to be with that per... Free Essays on Love The â€Å"Self-Expansion Theory of Love† is the theory that an individual has the capability to grow and develop as a result of the person with which they are involved in a relationship. We have learned that in this theory there is a possibility of the existence of motivation, for one or both members of a relationship, to self expand. There is also the possible outcome for an individual to incorporate aspects of other individuals to themselves. This concept can have a very noticeable outcome in a person’s lifestyle. In retrospect to the Self-Expansion Theory of Love, some outcomes in relationships that occur can be negative and undetected or just ignored by individuals involved. This theory and contradictory is one that I have seen in many of my friends and collegues. I will discuss the one case that I am most familiar with. In my early childhood I met a young man, names Kenny. Kenny and I met when we were ten years old. We became best friends and have remained close confidants. When we entered high school and started entering the dating scene, Kenny became a prime example of Self-Expansion Theory of Love. Kenny has never been accused of being capable of maintaining a satisfactory love life, but this just made it all that much easier for me to observe the far range of adjustment that he was capable of. I have observed Kenny, while involved with different female friends and dating partners, attempt to become a better person in reflection of them. He genuinely more targeted at making himself better in light of them, where as some people want to become better just to impress or look good in someone else’s eyes. Kenny started off in an abusive relationship in which he fell into a heavy substance abuse, resulting in depression and suicide attempts. Since counseling and the understanding that he has many people that truly care about him Kenny has searched for relationships that better him as a person. He looked for and is c...